tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-63609110461331797312024-02-08T12:44:45.324-08:00Long Island Divorce Advice and TipsOffering important divorce tips and advice to those that are entering into the dark world of divorce on Long Island. This blog is designed to help you avoid major costly mistakes. Please help by adding your experiences.
We are not lawyers, nor are we offering legal advice. we are simply trying to pass along some of our experiences.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-1709366942668073192009-09-01T05:40:00.001-07:002009-09-01T05:40:45.208-07:00Joint Child CustodyCustody of a child is and should be one of the most important aspectswhen it comes To the separation of the parents. Joint child custody iswhere each of the child's parents has Equal custody of said child orchildren.This type of custody is characterized by the responsibility of Boththe mother and the father of the children. Physical and legal matterscan be covered under a joint child custody agreement.The parent with legal custody gets to make all the decisions of achild's life including health-doctor, Education-school, Welfare ofsaid child. Physical custody is who the child will actually be withmost of the time.Both parents can have joint custody in these two areas. One parent mayhave the child during the week for school. The parents may split thetime during the week. This has to be thought through very carefully.You do not want to make it tough for the child while in school.Staying at a parents house during part of the week that is quite aways away from the child's school will make it tough on the that childand can affect the school work being done.Now if the parents have split up and are both still in the same schooldistrict this would not be a problem.How do you about obtaining the joint child custody result? The parentsmay differ on this.The easiest way is to come to an agreement between the two parentsthemselves. This will save each parent a significant amount of moneyin terms of lawyer's fees and court costs.Another alternative is to let a judge or master decide. Depending onthe parent, the judge may rule for joint child custody. He also mayrule that one parent would be better for the child to stay with. Thisis most certainly true in the case of mental and physical abuse to thechild by one of the parents.The state in which you reside needs to be taken into account. Thereare states that are no fault states as is the case in Pennsylvania.What this means is that no matter how many times you spouse hascheated on you, the courts will not take this into consideration whenit comes to determining if joint child custody is warranted.The best thing you can do to prepare yourself and to increase yourchances of joint child custody is to get as much information and someproven strategies that will work in you favor.<br />Child Custody Center: <a href="http://www.custodycv.tk/">http://www.custodycv.tk/</a>David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-30020548850261374862009-06-30T18:20:00.000-07:002009-06-30T18:25:33.866-07:00Marriage CounsellingIf you want to make one last effort to save your marriage, you should research a marriage counselor. We found <a href="http://litherapygroup.com/Cristina_Balbo__LCSW-R.html"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Cristina <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Balbo</span></span></a> and loved the work she did for us. You will go a long way before you find someone as <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">compassionate</span> as she is. <br /><br />If you think you have any chance to save your marriage, call Cristina!David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-22822315900156550812009-06-30T18:09:00.000-07:002009-06-30T18:18:29.110-07:00Protect your ChildrenThe toughest part of working towards my divorce is wondering how my children would handle this. When we first told them, they were extremely upset, it was decided that we would get a counselor for him. Surprisingly, they were very open to the idea. So after much research, we settled on <a href="http://local.yahoo.com/info-11472956-marcus-amy-marcus-amy-huntington?csz=East+Northport%2C+NY+11731"><span style="color:#ff0000;">Amy Marcus</span></a> in Huntington. What a fantastic just she has done for us. Our children have really come around. I must admit that our children are becoming well adjusted to our situation. Thank you Amy.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-84647289112294235052009-06-11T05:47:00.000-07:002009-06-30T18:00:34.969-07:00SPYWARE WARNINGIf you are in the process of divorce and don't trust your spouse, you need to protect yourself and watch this video. It is very scary!! Your cell phone can very easily be bugged!!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCyKcoDaofg">YouTube Video<br /></a>David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-74757390882642524402009-04-24T09:22:00.000-07:002009-06-24T10:38:22.319-07:00Your Lawyer is Your PartnerDon't look at your lawyer as someone that works for you and will solve all of your problems. He or she needs to partner with you to make the best case possible. Work together so they can help you present the best case possible. Remember that the person you choose wants to look good in front of his/her peers, so help out, it will only help your case and will make your lawyer want to work harder for you.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-42981456958069399192009-04-14T08:22:00.000-07:002009-04-14T08:24:35.298-07:00Are All Spouses Mean During The DivorcePlease post your story. We would all love to hear about how your spouse has changed during your divorce. What you have to say can be really helpful to others in the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">futher</span>. Let's hear the good, the bad and the ugly!!David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-34066049083724112009-04-10T05:20:00.001-07:002009-04-10T05:27:41.803-07:00Your Not In This AloneYes, this is your divorce and no one knows more than you what you want. However, if you can turn to your friends and family for advice, take it. You don't have to act on what they are telling you, but options and other opinions should be listened to. In my case, I thought that my marriage would work. Those around me could see that I was wrong. So maybe now it is time for me to see that I was wrong and perhaps they have a better perspective than I do. Also, I talk to my family because I need people around me to keep me strong. I want nothing more than to end my divorce. Because I want this over quickly, I am willing to cave in on my spouses demands. That is where my family and lawyer come in. They won't allow me to be weak and give in. If you reside to the fact that you need to listen to them, it will make you stronger. That being said, you still need to know what is fair and draw the line there.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-33398759236297943992009-04-07T16:48:00.000-07:002009-04-07T16:49:54.656-07:00MediationI have heard so many different things about mediation. <br />please post your comments on how it worked out for you.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-57793935010631658682009-04-03T11:08:00.001-07:002009-06-24T10:36:43.812-07:00Comment on Your LawyerWe would love to hear the good, the bad and the ugly. Help us avoid the pitfalls of bad lawyering and getting trapped with huge legal expenses.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-85084948810604044382009-04-03T11:02:00.000-07:002009-04-03T11:03:42.858-07:00Comment on Your ExperiencePlease post your divorce experience so we can all learn from you. The more educated we become, the smoother the process is.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-72542938647122941022009-04-03T09:21:00.000-07:002009-04-03T09:40:10.505-07:00Never Believe What You HearAnyone that tells you about divorce is probably telling you their own personal experiences and coveneying their experience as the way ALL divorces do. In listening to everyone I have spoken to, the bottom line is each divorce is a little different. Some can get away with a mediator or even share a lawyer because they know their divorce is going to go peacefully. Some prepare themselves for World War III. The bottom line is that you know your spouse best and, although you must protect yourself because people change and you don't know how they are going to react, you have to deal with your spouse the way you want. Remember, your attorney works for you so tell them what you want. But you have to be prepared to hear that what you want might not be feasible.David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6360911046133179731.post-49584540347997419532009-03-19T07:14:00.000-07:002009-06-24T10:35:17.071-07:00Welcome to Long Island Divorce Tips<p>When you decide that you are going to get divorced or your spouse serves you with the news, here are some tips and pointers you will want to consider to protect yourself:<br /><br />-Get a new email account and do not tell your spouse. I recommend Gmail because you can store documents on their site.<br /><br />-We recommend keeping all divorce and sensitive documents off you home computer. We recommend that you change your password frequently. Make the passwords random. Do not use anything that your spouse could guess. Give the security questions to someone you trust.<br />Buy a memory stick to store any valuable documents or correspondence. These are very cheap now and it is very important that you keep your documents off you home computer and in a safe place.<br /><br />-Get a voice recorder. This can be very helpful. Please consult your attorney regarding the laws on regarding conversations. You are legally allowed to record any conversation you are part of without disclosing to any other party that you are doing so. It is a felony if you record a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">conversation</span> that you are not part of.<br /><br />-Change your credit card passwords. Do not use your real “mother’s maiden name.” Your spouse knows the answers. Make up new ones.<br /><br />-Get a safe deposit box or <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">lockbox</span>. Do not leave any documentation around the house.<br /><br />-Get a new cell phone or have your spouse removed from your bill.<br />WARNING: There are devices that can lift text messages from a cell phone even after they have been erased. DO NOT leave your phone accessible to your spouse.<br /><br />-Create a log or diary and write everything down!! I know this is tedious, but very helpful. It really only takes a few minutes a day. Include things like what happened during the day, how are your kids doing, what time did your spouse come home, who did what work around the house?<br /><br />-Get a separate bank account and make sure you move your direct deposit. Determine what percentage of your income is the total income and only pay that portion of the bills.<br /><br />-If there is ANY physical altercation, file a police report. If you take pictures, have the police do it. You might need to show history and what is considered minor, could lead to major altercations. You want EVERYTHING officially documented.<br /><br />-Send all text messages to your new email account. Remember, the more documentation, the better.<br /><br />-If you verbally agree to something, confirm it with an email</p>David Jakubowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16008790642327805520noreply@blogger.com0